November Energy Report

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November is a month often associated with transition and introspection. As autumn gives way to winter in many parts of the world, it invites a sense of quiet reflection, gratitude, and preparation for the end of the year. 

The energy of November encourages us to slow down, reassess our goals, and tie up loose ends as we prepare for new beginnings. It’s a time to find balance, celebrate accomplishments, and release anything that doesn’t serve our journey forward. 

Embracing gratitude is a central theme, making it a perfect time to acknowledge growth, appreciate loved ones, and cultivate inner peace.

 With November being the 11th month and the year 2024 adding up to 8 (2+0+2+4=8), we get a combined energy of 10 (1+8+1). This number 10 brings a powerful blend of endings and new beginnings, empowerment, and transformation.

Diwali happened at the end of October, symbolizes the victory of good over evil, light over darkness, and knowledge over ignorance. It celebrates the triumph of positive virtues and the dispelling of negativity, which is why it's a time for introspection and letting go of old, limiting beliefs, habits, and anything that no longer serves us. This symbolism makes Diwali an ideal occasion for personal reflection, setting intentions for new beginnings, and welcoming positive changes.

Numerology Insight: Numbers 1 and 10

Number 10: Represents the cycle of completion, new beginnings, and the chance to reset. It symbolizes stepping into one’s power, seizing opportunities, and making bold choices to move forward.

Number 1: Carries the energy of leadership, independence, and new beginnings. It encourages stepping into one’s true self with confidence and taking initiative.

Together, 1 and 10 suggest November will bring a strong impulse for change, motivation, and personal empowerment. People may feel inspired to pursue new goals, break free from old patterns, and tap into inner strength.

Tarot Card Insight: The Wheel of Fortune (Card 10)

Wheel of Fortune: This card represents cycles, fate, and shifts in life’s path. November may bring unexpected changes and turning points, urging everyone to embrace the flow and stay adaptable. The Wheel of Fortune also speaks to karma and destiny, so this is a time to be mindful of actions and choices, as they could lead to long-term effects.

The Wheel of Fortune suggests that while some situations may feel out of control, there is a greater plan unfolding. Trusting the process and adapting to changes with positivity will be key.

Planetary Influences: Sun

Sun: As the ruling planet of number 1, the Sun brings themes of vitality, creativity, and self-expression. November’s energy will encourage people to shine brightly, focus on personal goals, and let their true selves be seen. The Sun’s influence can boost confidence, energy, and the drive to achieve, which makes November an ideal time to pursue personal passions and self-development.

Astrological Overview

Astrologically, November typically brings the energies of Scorpio (until November 22) and Sagittarius (from November 22 onward):

Scorpio Season: This is a period of introspection, transformation, and diving deep into one’s emotions. Scorpio’s influence encourages people to confront any emotional baggage, heal, and release what no longer serves.

Sagittarius Season: This brings a shift towards optimism, exploration, and freedom. Sagittarius invites open-mindedness, learning, and planning for the future, creating a positive momentum for self-expansion and new opportunities.

Energy Forecast for November 2024

November 2024 brings a month of transformation, renewal, and forward momentum. The combined energies of 1 and 10, along with the influence of the Sun and Scorpio-Sagittarius transitions, highlight the power of endings and beginnings. It’s a time to:

Release old patterns, beliefs, or relationships that no longer serve.

Focus on personal growth, empowerment, and self-discovery.

Embrace change with an open mind and heart.

This month will encourage everyone to be proactive, take leadership in their own lives, and align actions with their authentic selves. Embracing these energies can lead to personal breakthroughs, renewed confidence, and clarity of purpose as the year draws to a close.

November is a deeply reflective and transformational month, rich with meaning and opportunities for growth. Here are a few other themes and aspects that we can explore for November:

1. Spiritual Significance and Depth

November is the 11th month, with 11 often symbolizing spiritual enlightenment, intuition, and alignment with our higher selves. It can be a powerful time to tune into inner guidance, meditate, and seek clarity on our life purpose.

2. Endings and New Beginnings

November is a time for wrapping up unfinished projects and letting go of what no longer serves us. This clearing prepares us for fresh starts as we move toward the new year.

3. Honoring Ancestors and Loved Ones

Many cultures hold celebrations to honor ancestors. November can be a time to remember our loved ones and connect with our roots, honoring where we came from.

4. Themes of Rest and Renewal

With shorter days and colder weather, November naturally invites us to rest more, nourish ourselves, and renew our energies. It’s a month to embrace self-care, warmth, and inner balance.

5. Gratitude and Appreciation

November is often a month for giving thanks, such as with Thanksgiving in the United States. It’s an opportunity to reflect on our blessings, express gratitude, and strengthen bonds with family and friends.

6. Preparing for the Year’s Close

As the penultimate month, November is an ideal time to reflect on the year’s journey, assess our goals, and make peace with any unresolved challenges. It’s a great month for setting intentions and clearing out anything we don’t want to carry into the next year.

7. Celebrating Change and Transition

The shifting weather and natural changes around us symbolize life's cycles and our ability to embrace change. November encourages us to adapt, trust the process, and find beauty in transitions.

To your Transformation and Upgrades to new beginnings,

Roop Lakhani

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How to Overcome Mental Fatigue

"Rest is not a reward for your exhaustion; it’s the renewal your soul needs to keep shining. In giving yourself time to pause, you reclaim the strength to move forward." - Roop Lakhani 

Mental fatigue is a state of exhaustion that occurs when your mind has been overworked or overstressed for an extended period. It’s more than just feeling tired; it’s a deep sense of mental weariness that makes it difficult to concentrate, process information, or even feel motivated.

Imagine your mind like a battery, constantly powering through tasks, responsibilities, and emotions. When you're mentally fatigued, that battery is drained, leaving you feeling foggy, sluggish, and unable to function at your best. It often sneaks up on you, especially if you've been juggling multiple demands, pushing through stress, or neglecting to give yourself the rest and care you need.

It’s not just about how much you’re doing but also how deeply your mind is engaged. Whether it’s from relentless problem-solving, emotional stress, or just too much screen time, mental fatigue can feel like you're stuck in a mental haze. Even things that normally bring you joy or excitement might feel like chores, and that’s when you know your mind is asking for a break.

But mental fatigue doesn’t mean you’re weak or incapable; it’s a sign that your brain needs recovery, just like your body does after physical exertion. Listening to those signals is crucial for your well-being.

If you're feeling this way, it's okay. It’s a reminder that you’ve been giving a lot of yourself, and now it’s time to pause, recharge, and treat yourself with compassion. It's important to recognize that you're not alone in this, and giving yourself permission to rest is the first step to restoring your energy.

Overcoming mental fatigue, especially when you’ve been running on empty, starts with recognizing that you deserve care and restoration. It’s not about pushing harder but about listening to what your mind and body are telling you—acknowledging that you’ve been carrying a heavy load and it’s time to set it down, even if just for a while.

1. Create Space for Rest

Give yourself permission to slow down. Your mind, like your body, needs rest. This could mean taking a few minutes each day to simply breathe, or even allowing yourself to step away from tasks that drain you. If you’ve been carrying the weight of responsibilities, it’s okay to say, “I need this time for myself.”

2. Reconnect with What You Love

Remember the things that bring you joy, but may have fallen to the side during your busy days—whether it’s reading, gardening, listening to music, or just taking a quiet walk. These activities refill your emotional and mental cup. Doing what lights you up, even for a little while, helps your mind recover.

3. Let Go of Overwhelm

If your to-do list is never-ending, try tackling it one small step at a time. Prioritize what really needs to be done and give yourself grace for the rest. Overwhelm builds mental fatigue, so breaking things into manageable chunks lets your brain breathe.

4. Nourish Your Body, Heal Your Mind

Eating foods that give you sustained energy—like fruits, vegetables, and whole grains—helps fuel your mind, too. Drinking water throughout the day may seem simple, but dehydration can amplify mental exhaustion. Nourishing your body is an act of kindness toward your tired mind.

5. Find Peace in Stillness

Practicing mindfulness or meditation can help reset your mental energy. Even if it’s just a few minutes of quiet, being still allows your mind to rest from the constant stream of thoughts and worries. It’s a way to give your mind a break from “doing” and just focus on “being.”

6. Embrace Movement for Clarity

Light physical movement, like stretching or going for a walk, can help shake off that mental fog. Moving your body gently helps release tension and clears your mind. Think of it as refreshing your mental space, giving it room to breathe.

7. Be Gentle with Yourself

Perhaps most importantly, be kind to yourself. Mental fatigue often comes with a sense of guilt for not doing “enough,” but it’s important to remember that you’re doing the best you can. Allow yourself to rest without judgment, knowing that you are enough, even when you're tired.

By tending to your mental and emotional needs, one small step at a time, you'll find that the heaviness begins to lift. You’ll feel lighter, more focused, and more able to take on the day—not because you pushed through the fatigue, but because you cared for yourself through it.

October energy report

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Although the October month is 10 th month, 10 + 2024 = brings to number 9. Let us see what energies the Power of 9 - The Hermit in Tarot, Mars, and Numerology brings

October brings with it transformative energies, as we step into the vibration of Number 9—a powerful force in Tarot, numerology, and astrology. The themes of this month are introspection, completion, and personal transformation. The influence of the Hermit (Tarot), Number 9 (Numerology), and Mars (Astrology) points to a period of inner work, a time to resolve past issues, and to channel our energy wisely.  We just got finished with Pitra paksha, period of cleansing, and a new period to begin fresh after cleaning. Navratri is coming up to bring Durga devimas energies.  

These festivals, with their rich cultural and spiritual significance, mirror the key energies of October—introspection, completion, and action. By participating in or reflecting on these traditions, we can align ourselves with the powerful cosmic forces that October brings.

Embracing October’s Energy through Festivals

1. Introspection and Spiritual Growth (Navaratri, Valmiki Jayanti): Both Navaratri and Valmiki Jayanti emphasize the importance of inner work, spiritual growth, and self-transformation. Much like the Hermit Tarot card, these festivals invite us to step back, retreat from the external world, and reconnect with our true selves. Whether through fasting, meditating, or devotional practices, these festivals encourage us to reflect on our spiritual journey and focus on personal evolution.

2. Completion and Rebirth (Dussehra): Dussehra symbolizes the victory of light over darkness and the completion of a cycle of struggles and challenges. In the same way, the energy of Number 9 in numerology brings the vibration of completion and resolution. Dussehra reminds us that after every challenge comes renewal, reinforcing the theme of closure and preparing for new beginnings.

3. Balancing Action with Reflection (Mars and Karva Chauth): The fiery energy of Mars teaches us to act with purpose and courage, which is also reflected in the devotion and discipline seen during Karva Chauth. While Mars propels us toward bold action, Karva Chauth’s fasting and devotion remind us that sometimes restraint and self-discipline are necessary before taking major steps. It’s a month to balance contemplation with decisive movement, ensuring that our actions are guided by inner clarity.

4. Celebrating Abundance and Healing (Sharad Purnima): Sharad Purnima aligns with the idea of renewal and abundance after a period of reflection. The full moon’s healing energy invites us to refresh our minds and spirits, connecting to the universal flow of prosperity and health. This festival helps us close out the cycle of the year with gratitude, spiritual healing, and preparation for the next phase of growth.

The Hindu festivals in October offer a perfect reflection of the cosmic energies at play this month. The introspective nature of Navaratri, the completion and victory of Dussehra, the devotional discipline of Karva Chauth, and the abundance and renewal of Sharad Purnima all serve to guide us through the journey of October, from inner reflection to outward action.

By tuning into these sacred celebrations, we align ourselves with the energy of Number 9, the wisdom of the Hermit, and the dynamic force of Mars, allowing us to grow spiritually, release the past, and step forward into a more conscious and empowered future. October is a month of completion, but also one of deep transformation—an opportunity to honor what has been and prepare for what is to come.

Incorporating the lessons and practices from these festivals into our daily lives can help us navigate the transformative energies of October with mindfulness, devotion, and courage. As we embrace the spirit of the festivals, we open ourselves to the full potential of this powerful month, ready to step into the future with clarity and purpose.

This month is a call to balance reflection with action, as we prepare for new beginnings ahead.

Tarot Insight: The Hermit (Major Arcana)

The Tarot card for October is The Hermit, symbolizing deep introspection, wisdom, and spiritual guidance.

Inner Guidance: The Hermit represents a time to retreat from the noise of the external world and turn inward. It’s a call to find clarity by seeking answers within, to embrace solitude, and to reconnect with your inner wisdom.

Illumination through Reflection: The Hermit carries a lantern, a symbol of illumination and knowledge. This month, you are invited to shine a light on the parts of your life that need deeper understanding or resolution.

Letting Go of the Old: The Hermit often appears at the end of a journey, signaling a time of closure. In October, you may be called to reflect on lessons learned and release what no longer serves you, preparing for the next cycle of growth.

Actionable Tip: Spend time journaling, meditating, or simply in solitude to gain clarity on personal or spiritual matters.

Numerology: The Power of Number 9

In numerology, Number 9 is associated with endings, completion, and humanitarianism.

Completion and Fulfillment: October’s numerology energy is focused on wrapping up unfinished business. It’s a time to evaluate what has come full circle and what needs to be released as you prepare for a fresh start.

Selflessness and Compassion: The energy of 9 is compassionate and humanitarian. This month encourages you to look beyond personal concerns and consider how you can contribute to the greater good. It's a reminder to act with kindness and empathy.

Spiritual Awakening: Number 9 represents spiritual enlightenment. October’s energy supports deep personal growth and the expansion of your higher consciousness.

Actionable Tip: Reflect on any unresolved issues from the past, and focus on letting go with forgiveness and compassion to create space for new beginnings.

Astrology: Mars, the Planet of Action (Number 9 Influence)

In astrology, Mars, the ruler of action, energy, and drive, is associated with Number 9.

Dynamic Energy: Mars brings with it a surge of action-oriented energy, propelling you forward. While The Hermit encourages introspection, Mars provides the spark you need to take decisive action when necessary.

Balancing Action and Reflection: October is a month of balancing the introspective energy of The Hermit with the active force of Mars. Use this dynamic combination to reflect deeply, but also be ready to take bold action when the time is right.

Passion and Courage: Mars infuses the month with passion and determination. This energy can help you pursue goals with courage, but be mindful of potential impatience or aggression.

Actionable Tip: Focus your energy wisely—take time to reflect before making big decisions, but don’t hesitate to act once you have clarity.

Summary: October’s Energy Forecast - A Time for Transformation

October is a powerful month of inner reflection, completion, and decisive action. The combined energy of The Hermit (Tarot), Number 9 (Numerology), and Mars (Astrology) highlights a delicate balance between introspection and action. This month invites you to go within, release the old, and step forward with renewed purpose and energy.

Key themes to focus on in October:

Self-reflection: Spend time in quiet contemplation to gain clarity and insight.

Completion: Wrap up unfinished projects or emotional matters, letting go of what no longer serves you.

Decisive Action: Channel Mars’ energy into taking bold steps forward once you feel grounded and clear.

October serves as a transitional month, preparing us for new beginnings as we move toward the end of the year. Embrace the energy of 9 to complete this chapter with grace, compassion, and courage.

Closing Thought:

As October unfolds, take time to honor both your inner journey and the outer actions you need to take. The balance between The Hermit’s wisdom and Mars’ action creates a powerful force for growth, setting you up for the transformative months ahead.

Ending with Gratitude:

"As we wrap up this journey through October’s energies, remember that this month is not just about introspection or action alone—it’s about balance. October is a time to integrate the wisdom we gain through reflection with the strength we summon for bold steps forward. Whether through spiritual practice, mindful living, or taking decisive actions, trust that each moment is leading you closer to your highest self. In this process, remember to extend gratitude not only to the people and situations around you but also to yourself—for the journey you’ve traveled, the challenges you’ve overcome, and the growth you’ve experienced.

Let this be a time of gratitude for both the lessons and the blessings that this month brings, as we continue to align with our deeper purpose and prepare for what is to come. May you find peace in your heart, clarity in your mind, and strength in your actions as you step forward into the rest of this transformative year."

Final Reflective Questions:

1. How have I transformed throughout the course of this month, and what insights have I gained from this introspection?

2. What aspects of my life can I nurture with newfound wisdom as I prepare for the next phase of my journey?

3. How can I continue to cultivate balance between inner reflection and outer action beyond this month?

4. In what ways can I express gratitude more deeply, both to myself and to the universe for guiding me through this cycle of change?

5. What intentions or goals can I set for the future that align with the completion of this cycle?

Final Affirmations:

1. "I honor my journey and trust that every experience has guided me toward my highest good."

2. "I am grateful for the lessons I have learned and the strength I have gained."

3. "I embrace balance in all aspects of my life, integrating reflection with purposeful action."

4. "I am fully aligned with my inner wisdom, and I trust that the universe supports me in my growth."

5. "I am prepared and excited for the next chapter, knowing that I carry with me the insights of this transformative month."

As you move forward into the rest of the year, carry these affirmations and reflections with you, allowing the energies of October to empower you with wisdom, courage, and balance. May this month serve as a powerful reminder that transformation begins within, and through mindfulness and purposeful action, you can create the life you truly desire.

Lots of cheers to your wisdom, courage and balance

Roop Lakhani

Your transformation Coach and Mindset Healer

Tarot coach and Numerologist

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How difficult it is for you to deal with blame and criticism?

It is easy to blame others

It is easy to gossip on someone

It is easy to damage someone's reputation or image without much thinking

It is easy to bad mouth anyone

It is easy to criticise anyone

It is easy to just speak anything without much thinking

It is easy to be righteous

It is easy to be egoistic

It is easy to be judgemental and put everything in right and wrong box

But how difficult it becomes for a recipient to deal with it? Isn't it difficult to live in today's time with so much stress,tensions and worries? Thinking further, how easy it would become if we have to live in peaceful world?

 It is really difficult to live with toxic people in current times of uncertainities and insecurities... and it is so diificult to deal with people who are critical and blaming. 

The world is not kind to anyone. Maybe because each one is wounded here.

Also no one is sensitive to others feelings

No one is aware of their own emotion no one is aware of the root of the negative emotions

No one really wish to go deeper and introspective

No one is bothered about others.

Let's have some brain storming ideas.

Let us start with each one of us doing a bit of chewing some thoughts more mindfully. Let us inspire, motivate and empower ourselves. Let us awaken. Let us offload past emotional hurts and betrayal, some emotional wounds and past baggage.

Welcome!

How to deal with criticism and good and bad judgements in balanced manner and remain unaffected?

In this article I may be able to share few insights on to how to deal with criticisms and blaming people,  and not allow yourself to get isoalated or hide in a corner or feel bad, sad, upset or angry.

Recently I went through such an experience and I was deeply affected and was isolating myself from lots of family people, as I was deeply hurt. Hence I felt like sharing this article.

I would give my best in family, make sure take care of my in laws so that they are comfortable, will speak mindfully so that they are comfortable and not get hurt anywhere, I would keep myself busy around them taking small small care,  spend quality time with them, play cards with them, offer food of their choice and more. I would go beyond myself to please them, and give all comforts.

One day my mother in law stopped talking to me, stopped responding me and I was wondering why?

I kept asking, she did not respond.

I said sorry without knowing from her the reason of she not talking to me.

Fourth day my sister in law criticises me and blames me for no fault of mine and I wonder from where this is all coming. And the light strikes, that may be mother in law must have said something to her daughter, who is my daughter in law. I was going throughprevious days talks,  thinking what talk could be that. 

The reason of this sharing is not to portray anyone wrong or right, not even portray them as bad people, but the reason to share this is,  we all go through similar situations often and we don't know how to deal with it.

Inspite of being a healer, and I being a human,  I was deeply affected as I am very attached to my inlaws. I would care for my inlaws more than anything. I was crying as I was hurt and blamed by my sister in law. I isolated myself, was keeping sad and gloomy, and kept working on myself to release hurt.. it was just not going... tried various techniques but nothing helped me... tried self talks but that was in vain...nothing was working tobe at peace...tried one of my colleague friend to give me therapy... Still it did not work to bring me at peace..

My husband, my son, my daughter in law, my other sister in law was explaining me... But nothing helped me to get rid of my hurt feelings and e at peace..

So I allowed myself to remain in the same state saying, it is ok to feel hurt... first I allowed myself to feel what I am feeling, and then  I allowed myself to feel without any judgements...now I had accepted that space I was hurt... 

When I was little better,

I kept asking my self few Questions

Was it my fault?

My conscience said, no

Have you done anything wrong?

My conscience said, no

Did I take proper care of my inlaws?

My conscience said, yes

Then why am I hurting myself so much when the episode was over?

my conscience said, you are right

Why are you hurting so much with same painful thoughts again and again?

I asked myself, How do I not remain hurt?

My conscience said, forget and forgive your sister in law

Forget and forgive yourself

Forget and forgive your mother in law

Get going with your normal life, offload the past event and accept yourself the way you are and others the way they are

There is no need to put any judgements to it why this happened and you don't need to judge anyone here.. also you don't have to hurt yourself with those thoughts

I started forgetting and forgiving. I even used hoopponopo prayer.

Finally after so many internal dialogues and convincing my inner mind,  I was in a balanced emotional state and resilient.

In normal circumstance with similar experience, I started thinking how I would deal with my clients in the similar situations and I tried that technology with myself. I distanced myself from that event, started seeing from a distance, and disassociating myself from the emotional charge of that event. I got a little better with that neutral observer attitude and with aware acceptance.

Being a spiritual catalyst, I often understand the laws of karma so I was explaining to myself, may be I have hurt someone or blamed someone or criticised someone in my past life or this life, so it may have come in reverse order for me to experience what is the feelings like. I even released the guilt I attached with it.

The purpose for me to share my personal story is, we often go through such experiences many a times. It can be called as normal. But I wish to bring this into awareness of people's mind, by saying, let us not call this as normal. We all have become abnormal to see it as normal. 

How would it be to live in a world of peaceful, non judgemental and compassionate people? Will it not be a great feelings?!! I would call that as normal.

How would that be if we all can handle people's sensitivities with our mindful words, actions and behaviours?

How would that be if we can be more mindful of our triggered emotions and loose words that comes out of immediate anger or hurt?

Constructive criticism definitely helps a person to grow. In NLP we have learnt constructive criticism as FEEDFORWARD. ( Another word for feedback) means if you are not okay with a person, you first take permission to deliver that communication first by taking permission and then putting them in right words that will forward the person in polite way, putting aside your ego, grudge, hurt and anger. It can be delivered in a manner that is more compassionate and contributed to make the difference. The ability to hear and truly listen to people’s feedforward, improves relationships.

Plus, if you can learn to put aside your ego and not use harsh or rude or critical words,  this can propel you forward personally and professionally.

Criticism is a term for judgment or evaluation, good or bad. Let constructive criticism be like feedforward ( another word of feedback)  I have shared many insights in my previous article on judgement, 'is judgement contagious?'

Any time someone gives you criticism, they’re evaluating you against specific standards or image in their minds. Anytime some one blames you, it is they are percieving the situation as if something wrong or bad attempts have been made according to their standard definition or image.

Judging the person from right or wrong approach is the most dangerous thing we can do to anyone.

We need to become more open minded and free minded to not judge anyone

There is nothing right and wrong if you actually open yourself to be compassionate,  loving and accpting person.

If you are holding any such energies in yourself, critical people would attract yourself and 

People may criticize you openly in public, out of sheer resentment- have you ever been on social media? I would say what people have experienced and retained in them, they remove it on others without thinking twice... This happens why, because we do not reflect, introspect and process the negative emotional charge and reactions.

This process needs to pass through  three important requirements

All what others says is not the truth

You don't have to accept others words as truth

Let people say what they want, you check your intentions of what you did or said,  why you did and said and were there any hidden agenda or selfish agenda for saying it... If your conscience is clear, forget the triggering event

Also if it is repeatedly happening, are you having anything in subconscious?

Each one of us is projecting our inner dark side on others... Every one is extension of our own selves. So check if anything has happened earlier like that?

And if we are attracting that situations or manifested that episode, then what is inside you needs to be changed?

Now that you know not everyone with opinions on you is going against you, let’s look at how to defuse and use other people’s feedback for the best.

Yes being a healer, I insist one should focus on the inner thoughts and feelings. One should focus on how to deliver your feelings on others using mindful words. One should not use loose words. One should avoid direct confrontation and should give benefit of doubt or clarity so that one can understand both side of story, both parties versions or points of views. One should be compassionate and sensitive to others and know how it would be recieved. People should give criticism in a way that indicates care for the recipient, and it should come from someone the recipient respects. 

Listen honestly for a critic’s intention

Many people get defensive at the mere possibility of negative feedback. But no one’s perfect. It’s okay to think about your strengths and weaknesses.

When you’re about to receive either type of feedback, approach the situation with an open mind, so you can understand the difference.

Decide if feedback is constructive or destructive

Think about whether feedback is coming from someone who cares about you, references an area you want to improve in, or specifies how to get better.

ISome people criticize others to cement a never-ending power trip. You’ll usually be able to recognize this if the criticism is used for pulling someone down.

Or perhaps the feedback is followed up with demeaning or self-aggrandizing language. 

However, your reaction to criticism should vary depending on its intention. If you prefer, choose a different style of communication, and let the petson know.

If they push back, you might find they just wanted to be judge and be executioner without even attempting a legal degree, as if their judging is perfect.

f someone has given you feedback with a genuine view to helping you improve, Thank them. You got an opportunity to grow, improve and learn because of them.

People who provide you with helpful feedback want you to achieve your goals. Even if it hurts to hear what you did wrong, remember their intentions, and make plans to act on constructive criticism and take actions.

Avoid reacting and exploding. Think with cool mind and respond.

.Minimize encounters with harmful and negative people. There are lots of positive people.

Cut the chords with them. When you spend a lot of time with anyone, you are bound to develop invisible cords that keeps exchanging the vibrations.

It’s sad but true, some people are too soft and some people love tearing them down. it may be the right time to cut them off, even if they’re the people closest to you.

It is time to stand on your ground firmly rather than crying. Standing your ground against toxic people, is a way to build a strong identity. It is a way to become strong and confident. It is time to be emotionally balanced. 

Flushing toxic people out from your life can serve your soul good strength.