Why Suicide????

May the soul of Pratyusha Banerjee's rest in eternal peace.

I am not going to talk about Pratyusha s life and why this suicide happened...

because only she can answer why she committed  suicide... but surely there are some common reasons and emotions such as depression,  fear,  lack of courage,  sadness,  inability to fight or flight,  inability to cope with the challenges and crisis powerfully, emotional or financial crisis before suicide..And those are worst...as those reasons to those feelings keep happening to each one...each one goes through some problems...and when it happens on daily basis for a longer period of time and with no solution then people break down...

What can be the mindset of people who do suicide?

Probably depression, emotionally weak or imbalanced, hopelessness feelings, happiness lies in others mindset, financial crisis, emotional crisis,  extreme dependency for finance or happiness in other people, disappointments,  disillusionment,  sadness, failure in love, lack of self love,  fear of past emotional loss, fear of losing person whom you love or any such? May be the person is not having enough information or not aware of the ways she or he can salve from the situation?

In love people are extremely dependent and blind. ..They invest their full happiness in doing some act which can please other people and when the relationship falls apart, the person goes through heart ache and depression...

But what would be the reason? Probably the reason only person could say...but being a healer, gone through several cases, few reasons could be that when a child grows up from the age of 0 to 7, he goes through several experiences where belief s gets formed without his or her knowledge and that gets reinforced while teenager and adult age s experiences....so the vital upbringing which could lead to sabotaging belief and tinted perception can be the core issue...

at a young age may be the person has perceived unloved feelings in the family by parents, maybe he or she is not good in academics and goes through beatings and thrashings...may be because of sibling rivalry he or she feels not loved enough or not good enough feelings if was too much compared with smarter sibling, may be intellectually he may not be doing good and was been called dumb and stupid by many.. 

May be felt not great because the parents were too strict or disciplined...may be felt abused because of certain people s harsh criticism or judgmental attitude...maybe person went through verbal or sexual abuse...or maybe because the person never knew the true meaning of love and was idealistic...may be the person was too blinded by certain definitions of love and never knew that is not love...may be the soul from many years wanted to feel loved as was wounded many a times...may be the soul script was to make her understand you are beautiful and she or he never understood and was searching that beautiful feelings through others..mat be there is some karmic journey which is unfinished, may be the soul strength is weak...maybe she or he grew up with strong perception...."I am not loved by my parents, I am not loved enough...I am not good ...I am not good enough...no one understands me...no one supports me and more... and all this factors leads to the person in teenager age to get approval by others and loved by others..He or she becomes people pleaser person...as if he wants to become loved and approved by other people that he or she is good and lovable person...

May be some are successful in their love relations to reach till marriage and live a happy life...and may be some fail...some fail in love relationship not only one two time but three four times...may be some gets discouraged and become rebel...may be some gets into more such dramas and traumas of that relationship is not meant for me...may be some knows how to find support system and get back into the right track...may be some asks for support but don't get..May be some asks for support but that person doesn’t know how to give the support...

May be some knows how to give support but that is not enough for the emotionally weak person ...may be the person knew only one way to receive support..Maybe there can be so many other factors....we don't know...

But in all this the message for each one is to love people unconditionally. .express it often...shows it in the most living language...let people hears and feels that. .and the message for emotionally weak people is to feel self love which may not be there... They don’t know how to live themselves unconditionally... as the person has perceived as a child even if you have gone through various times where you feel unloved by others may be in childhood or teenager...it is important to take lessons of self love...which is the key understanding to why suicide happens....

No one can support or love another person's happiness all through life. If anyone said that, then don't trust that person.

Don't give the keys to your happiness to someone else when you have the lock to it.

They don't know what you value. Only you know what your value is and what you value. And don’t expect other person to give importance to what you value...neither can you value other people’s priority. So hold on to the key of your happiness within your own realms. So that no one can take it away from you.

Depressed people depend on others for refuelling happiness for them. A day when the other person stops doing it; they will fall back into depression. Depression is episodic.

When your loved one is depressed they don't need your sympathy. Even empathy might not work if it’s severe. Find out the root cause of the sadness; what's the towering feeling. Is it anger, humiliation, fear, loss, pain sadness? Help the person deal those emotions first.

The person is likely to go through a gamut of emotions like a pendulum; be with the person as a huge support. The things the person say and do may not be in sync. Be compassionate.

We end up saying “its normal part of life “then the person is wondering what went wrong in the relation?

We also start feeling for the other person “he is not worth it” then the person is wondering “so, was my choice of the person also wrong?

We end up saying “it all happens for a reason " then the person is running behind finding the real reason why it happened

We end up saying “everything in life is learning " and the person takes the books to understand the learning.

We end up saying “don’t give so much in love " and the person is wondering when love became confusing, confronting and conditional.

We say “it’s not the end of the world” and the person is wondering where the beginning is.

We end in saying "time will heal every wound. Give it some time “and the person is just passing days for the time to pass...

Nothing happens because all these clichés don't work anymore. These are used by people when they have nothing to say. Only action is the solution.

You have to pick up the pieces of your own life and continue your life from where you left it.

Get the right resource and experts help to this person. It may not be your family or your best friend. Work with experts and healers who show you the way...you can’t take such depressed feeling light...it will only lead to the worst if unattended...

Find solace in your own heart through spirituality...coping mechanism of fight and flight works when the lighter depression and sadness is going through you...but when you go through severe depression, don’t feel like living...feel like ending life type fretting on and off feelings...or on and off you feel unsupported and unloved feelings....it is high time find the solution..

There are many ways to heal the wound. Don't leave it open or unhealed...it reoccurs or it will keep happening more often ...life is beautiful and we people have a lot going on in emotional world which we hardly can express or hardly know how to release it...

Sincere suggestions from me...don’t ignore such situations...whether you are going through relationship crisis or financial crisis...

Being a spiritual catalyst and intuitive healer, would say love is the language which everyone needs to speak...love is the emotions which everyone needs to experience...love is the feelings everyone needs to feel..And if this is little less experienced or felt people go through different mindsets and emotion connected challenges and problems...and for this  each one has to self love a lot to one’s own self...it is an art to do self love...it is not taught in formal school education how to give importance to one’s own emotions and how to handle negative emotions...the emotions carry the vibrations and vibrations travels faster them thought...so it is on we healers to help you raise your vibrations and your emotional strength if asked...

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